BY Cliff Dunn
LGBT activists are condemning the decision of a Utah middle school to out a gay student to his parents. The incident at Willowcreek Middle School in Lehi, Utah – a town in the heart of the most politically-conservative county in one of America’s “reddest” states – has drawn angry phone calls, emails, and social media postings directed towards officials of the Alpine School District.
The Salt Lake Tribune reports that the situation started last week when the 14-year-old student’s class was given an assignment to create an advertisement about themselves to hang on their classroom wall. The boy’s ad included the fact that he is gay.
The assigning teacher asked him if he felt comfortable about publicly sharing that information, and was told that he did.
In the aftermath, several students reportedly criticized the eighth-grader for his orientation and these were in turn reprimanded by the school’s assistant principal.
The assistant principal then reportedly talked with the gay student, who confirmed his sexual orientation but that he hadn’t told his parents. The assistant principal spoke with the student about talking with his parents.
“[The student] was nervous about [it],” Alpine School District spokeswoman Rhonda Bromley said. He initially said, ‘No, that can’t happen.’ [The assistant principal] talked to him. He finally agreed reluctantly.” Bromley says the student consented to his parents being told about his sexual orientation, but at the boy’s request, he was not present when his parents were informed.
Bromley defended the actions of the school and the administrator, citing safety and bullying concerns.
“We do include parents any time there’s a potential safety issue with a student,” Bromley said.
Activists say the administrator’s actions, no matter how well-meaning, are troubling. The director of the Utah Pride Center, Valerie Larabee, said she found the reports “disturb[ing].”
Bromley told The Tribune that a lot of the criticism of the school and officials was unwarranted coming as it did in response to false statements made on Facebook. These included rumors that the boy was suspended from school for being gay.
Bromley says that the parents were notified that their son is gay in an effort to be “proactive” and preempt any bullying. The Salt Lake Tribune reports that the eighth-grader was not disciplined by the school, but that his parents, who are being “very supportive” of their son, have decided to keep him home until after the school’s winter break.
The Utah Pride Center’s Larabee says the school’s actions compounded one bad situation by piling another on top of it. “It’s important to me that school officials deal with bullying issues and don’t cause another problem for the child by outing him to his parents,” she said. “That conversation can be really devastating to young people when their family rejects them. Once you’ve uttered the words, ‘I’m gay,’ your home life can change forever.”
The Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network (GLSEN) last week issued a statement decrying the practice of schools outing students without their consent.
“Outing a student not only violates their right to privacy, but also could compromise their safety. Parents can be notified of their child being bullied at school, but without disclosing their sexual orientation or gender identity,” wrote GLSEN Executive Director Eliza Byard.
“Taking away the choice for an LGBT student to come out on their own terms opens the door to significant risks including harassment at school and family rejection. Schools should be able to provide LGBT students with support and resources in order to make an informed decision if and when they decide to come out to their school community and family,” her statement added.
As noted in The Salt Lake Tribune, a recent study published in the medical journal Pediatrics notes that LGBT youths experiencing high levels of family rejection are eight times more likely to attempt suicide. In addition, they are six times as likely to experience depression, and three times more likely to use illegal drugs than those who don’t experience similar rejection.
Reiterating safety issues, Bromley remained cautiously unapologetic. “The administrator did exactly the right thing,” she said. “We are not going to back down. We take bullying very, very seriously.”